Such beautiful wisdom, thank you so much! Also reminds me of the OponoOpono Hawaiian practice of saying many times 'I am sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you."
Hubbs and I were kind of in a deceptive move, encouraged to drive allllll the way out to my daughter and her husband on that super polluted day back in June (the fires in Canada that turned the sky all orange?) It was pretty bad outside. They insisted we sit outside and have a discussion about the previous year, and the estrangement set on us because.... well, my son in law is a jerk.
After a few discussions over the year, he pronounced that our relationship with their children was over, with their family, was over
So we showed up for this meeting and for two hours we were scolded.
It was a terrible day.
They are ignoring us now entirely.
I have apologised for every single terrible thing I said or they imagined I said.
Such a small disagreement, but I think his pride is what is at the root of this all.
If you apologized and they don't forgive it is on them. Sorry, that must be painful. Hopefully time and maturity and perspective may help. I wish you the best and some inner peace.
I am grateful for your response. I just can not imagine treating my parents ever this way, and we did disagree on a lot, we just never scolded each other for disagreeing.
Such beautiful wisdom, thank you so much! Also reminds me of the OponoOpono Hawaiian practice of saying many times 'I am sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you."
this is good to read.
Hubbs and I were kind of in a deceptive move, encouraged to drive allllll the way out to my daughter and her husband on that super polluted day back in June (the fires in Canada that turned the sky all orange?) It was pretty bad outside. They insisted we sit outside and have a discussion about the previous year, and the estrangement set on us because.... well, my son in law is a jerk.
After a few discussions over the year, he pronounced that our relationship with their children was over, with their family, was over
So we showed up for this meeting and for two hours we were scolded.
It was a terrible day.
They are ignoring us now entirely.
I have apologised for every single terrible thing I said or they imagined I said.
Such a small disagreement, but I think his pride is what is at the root of this all.
We can not overcome this situation
If you apologized and they don't forgive it is on them. Sorry, that must be painful. Hopefully time and maturity and perspective may help. I wish you the best and some inner peace.
we are working on that, hubbs and myself.
I am grateful for your response. I just can not imagine treating my parents ever this way, and we did disagree on a lot, we just never scolded each other for disagreeing.
Again, thank you for your acknowledgement.